A Good Thing: Don’t Make Me Submit
The “s” word has caused even the most faithful christian women to cringe. We are excited to love and cherish our spouses. We daydream of making our husbands smile, being supportive and starting a family but I don’t think any woman daydreams of submitting to her husband.
What generally comes to mind when you think of submission? I think of parent child relationships and of our relationship with God. It’s hard for me to see myself submitting to any man…especially a man who leaves the toilet seat up, doesn’t do laundry and has smelly feet.
If you have been single for a while, like me, you are pretty independent. It’s hard to imagine a guy coming into your life and all of a sudden being in charge. All of a sudden it’s not just about you, it’s about where he wants to lead you. How does that sit with you?
I am bossy by nature so when anyone tells me what to do there is always a bit of hesitation and when it comes to a marriage I just want to scream “DON’T MAKE ME SUBMIT!”.
Whether we like it or not, there is an order to godly relationships and that order says that we are to submit to our husbands. If we are not ready to humble ourselves and submit then we are not ready for a biblical marriage. Maybe we are ready for marriage in the world’s eyes, but not God’s.
The picture of submission has been distorted in some marriages. For some, submission means that you simply do whatever you are told but the biblical idea of submission is much deeper…thank God!
We are quick to quote Ephesians 5:22 that says “Wives submit to your husbands, as you do to the Lord” but often leave out Ephesians 5:21…
When it comes to the idea of submission in marriage there is a proper order. Before scripture tells wives to submit to their husbands, it tells us that we should submit to each other (men included). If we begin with submitting to one another then we will naturally fulfill our God ordained roles in marriage.
Husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church?? Read Philippians 2 for the full answer. Basically, Christ loved the church by completely humbling himself on our behalf and put our needs above his own.
In turn, as the church we are HONORED to humble ourselves before God and put his desires before our own…it’s a beautiful dance of mutual submission!
If husbands love their wives the way Christ loves us by putting our needs before his own, humbling himself and making sacrifices for us, then we as wives and future wives should be HONORED to humble ourselves in return through submission and allow our husbands to lead our households. That’s the type of submission that God is preparing my heart for…what are your thoughts on submission?